how do you hear "I love you"?

(Photo: Couldn't resist all the hearts last strawberry season.)

Happy Valentine's Day!

What does it take to get you to hear "I love you"?

- Help with baby or the dishes?

- Chocolates and roses?

- A heartfelt compliment?

- A dinner for two where you linger over coffee and conversation?

- Kisses, hugs and lots of cuddles?

Chances are you'd like some of them all. But if Gary Chapman is right, each one of us has a predominant love language.

This Valentine's Day why not review his description of the five love languages: service, gifts, affirmation, quality time and physical touch. Then say "I love you" in a way your significant other won't be able to miss.

• Take the 30-second love language assessment here.

• The love languages and their relationship to marriage are described briefly here and here.

• Of course Dr. Chapman talks about them in much more detail within the love language books he's written:

- The Five Love Languages
- The Five Love Languages of Teens
- The Five Love Languages of Children

• In case this day finds you in a spot where you and your love need to resolve some issues, check out the Five Languages of Apology. Good, good stuff.